Change Feels Hard

You know what nobody tells you about change? It’s not just hard because you’re “not motivated enough” or because you “lack discipline.” Change is hard because you’re trying to rebuild your life while you’re still living inside it.

It’s like remodeling your house… without moving out.

You’re cooking dinner while the kitchen is torn apart. You’re stepping over tools and dust. You’re trying to keep the lights on while someone is rewiring the whole place. And then you wonder why you’re exhausted.

Why change feels so messy

Most people think change should look clean and inspiring. You decide what you want, you make a plan, you follow through, and boom—new life.

But real change rarely works like that.

Real change looks like:

• Wanting a healthier body while still craving comfort food when you’re stressed

• Setting boundaries while still feeling guilty for disappointing people

• Learning to rest while your brain keeps yelling that you should be doing more

• Choosing a new path while the old one still feels familiar and “safe”

When you’re changing, you’re living in the in-between. And the in-between is uncomfortable because it’s not fully “before” and it’s not yet “after.”

The old version of you doesn’t leave quietly

Here’s the truth: the habits, beliefs, and coping mechanisms you’re trying to change? They were built for a reason.

Maybe they protected you. Maybe they helped you survive. Maybe they got you through a season where you didn’t have better tools.

So when you try to change, it’s not just about “doing something different.” It’s about letting go of what used to work.

And that can feel like grief.

You’re still living life while you’re rebuilding it

This is the part that makes change feel unfair.

You still have kids to feed. A job to show up for. A relationship to navigate. Bills. Hormones. Stress. Real life.

You don’t get to pause everything while you heal, grow, or reinvent yourself.

So yes—some days you’ll feel like you’re making progress. And other days you’ll feel like you’re back at square one.

That doesn’t mean you’re failing. That means you’re human.

What to do when it feels like too much

If you’re in a season of change, here are a few truths to hold onto:

1. Messy doesn’t mean wrong. Remodeling is loud and dusty. That’s normal.

2. Small changes are real changes. One new choice, one new boundary, one new habit at a time.

3. You don’t need to be perfect to move forward. Progress isn’t a straight line.

4. Rest is part of the work. You can’t rebuild on an exhausted foundation.

5. Get support. You don’t have to do this alone, and you were never meant to.

A better question than “Why is this so hard?”

Instead of asking, “Why can’t I just change?” try this:

“What am I rebuilding right now?”

Because if you’re changing, you’re not broken—you’re under construction.

And construction takes time.

If you’re in the middle of it, hear me

If you’re trying to make changes in your health, your mindset, your relationships, or your purpose—and it feels like you’re living in chaos—good. That means you’re doing real work.

Keep going. Keep choosing the next right step. And give yourself the grace you’d give anyone else who’s trying to rebuild their life from the inside out.

Your turn

What part of your “house” are you remodeling right now—your health, your boundaries, your confidence, your purpose, or something else?

I offer two simple paths to help you do the remodeling from the inside out:

• The Path to Self-Discovery: coaching that helps you get honest about what you want, rebuild your confidence, and create habits that actually fit the woman you are now.

• The Path of Nature (Essential Oils + Natural Support): a practical, supportive way to use essential oils and simple daily wellness tools to calm your body, steady your emotions, and create momentum when you feel stuck.

Either way, we’re not slapping paint on the walls and calling it “healed.” We’re rebuilding the foundation—so your life feels like yours again.