Take Out Your Damn Trash

Do Yourself a Favor...

Take Out the Damn Trash

If you've ever read a post online and immediately thought, "Well, that's obviously about me," I want you to pause.

Either ask...or get rid of it.

Because here's the truth: vague, sneaky, "if the shoe fits" energy is just trash with a filter on it.

And if you're posting things hoping someone will feel it - but you're too elusive to actually say what you mean - then it's time to take out your own damn trash and get over yourself.

The Social Media Trash Cycle

We've all seen it.

The subtle meme that's clearly a jab
The quote that's "not directed at anyone" (but somehow is directed at everyone)
The underhanded image that's meant to sting

Let me say this with love and a little fire: those posts don't make your pain more valid. They don't make your story more true. They don't make you more powerful.

They just spread your garbage around.

And if you're on the receiving end - if you're convinced someone's post is about you - don't spiral. Don't screenshot it, analyze it, and let it live rent-free in your head.

Ask for clarity or throw it away.

Not everything is about you (and that's a gift)

Not everyone wants to be with you. Not everyone is thinking about you. Not everyone is trying to hurt you. Only YOU maket it all about YOU.

And if you're so wrapped up in your own story that you feel the need to discreetly make comments, drop hints, or "subtweet" someone - then you've got two choices:

Release that person (for your own sanity)
Get over yourself.

I know that sounds harsh, but it's also freedom.

As women, we're carrying around too much trash

Let's talk about the real issue. We carry too much trash around, all the time, day in and day out.

Garbage spilled into our heads and lives there - rotting like a silent beast - eating it's way through the lining to infect our space.

We've collected it from school yard bullies, high school sweethearts, adult relationships, bad decisions (ours or someone else's), trauma, drama, betrayal, disappointment, and stories we were told about who we're "supposed" to be.

And sometimes, instead of dealing with it, we start tossing it everywhere.

Especially online.

We dress it up and make it look pretty. We call it "healing". But if it's still rooted in resentment, insecurity, or a need to be seen as a victim, it's not healing.

It's still rotting crap, and it needs to go.

What's in your trash can?

Let's imagine it for a minute. What are you hiding in there? Is it filled with:

rotten fruit at the bottom: negative thoughts and patterns, trauma, drama, deceit
old papers stacked on top: all the things you haven't accomplished that you've wanted to (think unfiled paperwork for years)
coffee grounds sprinkled on top: the people who have sucked the life out of you, but also made you happy at some point in your life but not anymore

No wonder you feel heavy. No wonder you're reactive. No wonder on little post can ruin your whole day.

When your internal trash can is full, everything smells like a threat.

What I do as an intentional life coach

My job is to give you a safe space to sort through your trash - without judgement and with great intention - and get rid of the mold crap at the bottom of your barrel.

We sort through it together. We keep what's worth keeping as a memory (not something to keep carrying).

Then, you leave...and I toss it out.

Sometimes it's easier to let someone else help you throw it away because you don't see it happen. And you don't get the chance to dig it back out and sift through it again.

If you've been digging through the trash lately...

If you've found yourself digging through the trash lately - replaying old conversations, reading into posts, carrying resentment, feeling triggered, feeling heavy, feeling left out - let's talk.

I've got a big trash bag waiting.

And, if you've felt that maybe the things I post, talk about, or share is trash, then throw me out because I don't want to be the reason your trash stinks up the place.

Ready to sort it out?

Book a connection call and let's see if I can help you sort your trash - without judgement, without shame, and without having to carry it alone.

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